情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛

　　摘录：每对夫妻都会说离婚，但大部分都不会离。然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了。

　　情感美文：婚姻生活中的八个真谛

　　1.The biggest threat to a marriage is not death or poverty, it is the daily trivial matters.

学习啦在线学习网 　　经得起贫穷和生死考验的爱情，往往会输给平淡的流年。

学习啦在线学习网 　　Think about Jack and Rose in the film Titanic, no one could doubt their true love. I still clearly remember those scenes which touched me. It was Jack who saved Rose's life with his own life, making the love last forever. Imaging that both of them survived, they went onto a marriage, the ending may not be that “loving”。 The biggest threat to a marriage is not death or poverty, it is the daily trivial matters.

　　2.Basing a marriage on “love” ONLY may carry many risks.

学习啦在线学习网 　　婚姻不能光靠感情维系，应该有多种元素去平衡。

　　As an adult I have to say that many of us may not just love one person in our entire lifetime. Before marriage, we might have loved someone else, which is not uncommon. After marriage, it is also possible to be attracted by someone other than your spouse. Basing a marriage on “love” ONLY may carry many risks. From my point of view, a good marriage contains the following elements: love, responsibility, understanding, effective listening, patience, appreciation, common interests, care, kindness, trust, fairness and so on.

　　3.Focus on changing ourselves rather than others, u will find peace in your marriage.

学习啦在线学习网 　　对方是无法改变的，至少无法改变到你满意的状态。

　　Many of us try very hard to change others, even we clearly know that it is not necessary and it is impossible. Sometimes we give up but soon we will pick the bad habit up again. It is why we argue from time to time (not just with our partner, but with someone else)。 If we could truly accept the above statement, and focus on changing ourselves rather than others, you will find peace in your marriage. If you can successfuly change yourself, then your partner will notice that with appreciation and he/she may rethink what he/she has to change, then things are going to be better. It is a positive cycle. If you failed to change yourself, what could you expect others do?

　　4.If you have some secrets, then accept the truth that your partner has his/hers.

　　你总有不愿让对方知道的隐私，那就接受对方也有事瞒着你的事实。

　　I have always believed that everyone has some secrets that would last for a lifetime. If you have yours, then please accept the truth that your partner has his/hers. It is not a smart idea to expose everything under the sun. Stop peeking his/her record of chatting, his/her messages. Don't be so curious about his/her locked draws and dairies. The rule of respecting other's privacy applies on your partner too.

　　5.When the number of stating “divorce” reaches a critical level, a divorce may become inevitable.

学习啦在线学习网 　　每对夫妻都会说离婚，但大部分都不会离。然而当说的次数到达一定数量后，离婚就会变成真的了。

　　According to a research, that on average each couple has stated “divorce” many times throughout their marriage, while most of them still live together today. However, when the number reaches a critical level, a divorce may become inevitable. Thus, if you don't really mean that, or it is not your final decision yet after a rational consideration, please don't repeat that. It could bring nothing else but worries, pains and possible disasters.

　　6.You cannot compromise your spouse's small bad habit as you have wished.

学习啦在线学习网 　　细节决定婚姻长短——婚前的小摩擦，会变成婚后的大问题。

　　Before marriage, you may think that you are able to compromise on your spouse's small bad habit, like throwing the socks everywhere, taking bath three times a day, or being on QQ or MSN the whole night and day, or getting up at noon each day etc. However, you may find out that actually you cannot compromise them as you have wished, and eventually you will not be able to accept these.

学习啦在线学习网 　　7.Love and marriage are linked but it does not mean love must result in a marriage.

学习啦在线学习网 　　婚姻必定需要感情作为奠基，而感情，却未必需要婚姻作为结局。

　　A good marriage must be established on the basis of love. Some kind of love feelings may not end up in a marriage. So please realize that love and marriage are linked but it does not mean love must result in a marriage. Love is a kind of chemical reaction and emotional reflection, while marriage is more technical and needs skills. In a word, the biggest difference between love and marriage is the RESPONSIBILITY!

学习啦在线学习网 　　8.As time goes, responsibility becomes the major factor.

学习啦在线学习网 　　时间越长，你越会发现，相比当初的激情，原来婚姻中起决定因素的，是责任二字。

学习啦在线学习网 　　The last but not least: let's talk about RESPONSIBILITY. As time goes, you will find out that comparing with the enthusiasm at the very beginning of your relationship, responsibility becomes the major factor. Women also need to take responsibilities as men do because a marriage is a union of two. What you ask for from the other party is what you should also do for the other in return.

　　Now you may get some ideas about what a marriage entails. All I can say is that a good marriage would double your happiness, lead you to a positive future. You could have someone to rely on; to talk with; to share your laughs; listen to your complaints… Certainly, marriage is not a fairy tale, it has some “cruel” facts and it needs our wisdom and compromise.